Tuesday, December 13, 2011

30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself

I love the blog Mark and Angel Hack Life. They offer tidbits of wisdom, advice on self-improvement, cleaning the clutter of life.

  1. Stop spending time with the wrong people. – Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you.  If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you.  You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot.  Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth. And remember, it’s not the people that stand by your side when you’re at your best, but the ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst that are your true friends.
  2. Stop running from your problems. – Face them head on.  No, it won’t be easy. There is no person in the world capable of flawlessly handling every punch thrown at them. We aren’t supposed to be able to instantly solve problems. That’s not how we’re made.  In fact, we’re made to get upset, sad, hurt, stumble and fall.  Because that’s the whole purpose of living – to face problems, learn, adapt, and solve them over the course of time. This is what ultimately molds us into the person we become.
  3. Stop lying to yourself. – You can lie to anyone else in the world, but you can’t lie to yourself.  Our lives improve only when we take chances, and the first and most difficult chance we can take is to be honest with ourselves.  Read The Road Less Traveled.
  4. Stop putting your own needs on the back burner. – The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too.  Yes, help others; but help yourself too.  If there was ever a moment to follow your passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is now.
  5. Stop trying to be someone you’re not. – One of the greatest challenges in life is being yourself in a world that’s trying to make you like everyone else.  Someone will always be prettier, someone will always be smarter, someone will always be younger, but they will never be you.  Don’t change so people will like you.  Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.
  6. Stop trying to hold onto the past. – You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading your last one.
  7. Stop being scared to make a mistake. – Doing something and getting it wrong is at least ten times more productive than doing nothing.  Every success has a trail of failures behind it, and every failure is leading towards success.  You end up regretting the things you did NOT do far more than the things you did.
  8. Stop berating yourself for old mistakes. – We may love the wrong person and cry about the wrong things, but no matter how things go wrong, one thing is for sure, mistakes help us find the person and things that are right for us.  We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past.  But you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the power to shape your day and your future.  Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.
  9. Stop trying to buy happiness. – Many of the things we desire are expensive.  But the truth is, the things that really satisfy us are totally free – love, laughter and working on our passions.
  10. Stop exclusively looking to others for happiness. – If you’re not happy with who you are on the inside, you won’t be happy in a long-term relationship with anyone else either.  You have to create stability in your own life first before you can share it with someone else.  Read Stumbling on Happiness.
  11. Stop being idle. – Don’t think too much or you’ll create a problem that wasn’t even there in the first place.  Evaluate situations and take decisive action.  You cannot change what you refuse to confront.  Making progress involves risk.  Period!  You can’t make it to second base with your foot on first.
  12. Stop thinking you’re not ready. – Nobody ever feels 100% ready when an opportunity arises.  Because most great opportunities in life force us to grow beyond our comfort zones, which means we won’t feel totally comfortable at first.
  13. Stop getting involved in relationships for the wrong reasons. – Relationships must be chosen wisely.  It’s better to be alone than to be in bad company.  There’s no need to rush.  If something is meant to be, it will happen – in the right time, with the right person, and for the best reason. Fall in love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely.
  14. Stop rejecting new relationships just because old ones didn’t work. – In life you’ll realize that there is a purpose for everyone you meet.  Some will test you, some will use you and some will teach you.  But most importantly, some will bring out the best in you.
  15. Stop trying to compete against everyone else. – Don’t worry about what others doing better than you.  Concentrate on beating your own records every day.  Success is a battle between YOU and YOURSELF only.
  16. Stop being jealous of others. – Jealousy is the art of counting someone else’s blessings instead of your own.  Ask yourself this:  “What’s something I have that everyone wants?”
  17. Stop complaining and feeling sorry for yourself. – Life’s curveballs are thrown for a reason – to shift your path in a direction that is meant for you.  You may not see or understand everything the moment it happens, and it may be tough.  But reflect back on those negative curveballs thrown at you in the past.  You’ll often see that eventually they led you to a better place, person, state of mind, or situation.  So smile!  Let everyone know that today you are a lot stronger than you were yesterday, and you will be.
  18. Stop holding grudges. – Don’t live your life with hate in your heart.  You will end up hurting yourself more than the people you hate.  Forgiveness is not saying, “What you did to me is okay.”  It is saying, “I’m not going to let what you did to me ruin my happiness forever.”  Forgiveness is the answer… let go, find peace, liberate yourself!  And remember, forgiveness is not just for other people, it’s for you too.  If you must, forgive yourself, move on and try to do better next time.
  19. Stop letting others bring you down to their level. – Refuse to lower your standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs.
  20. Stop wasting time explaining yourself to others. – Your friends don’t need it and your enemies won’t believe it anyway.  Just do what you know in your heart is right.
  21. Stop doing the same things over and over without taking a break. – The time to take a deep breath is when you don’t have time for it.  If you keep doing what you’re doing, you’ll keep getting what you’re getting.  Sometimes you need to distance yourself to see things clearly.
  22. Stop overlooking the beauty of small moments. – Enjoy the little things, because one day you may look back and discover they were the big things.  The best portion of your life will be the small, nameless moments you spend smiling with someone who matters to you.
  23. Stop trying to make things perfect. – The real world doesn’t reward perfectionists, it rewards people who get things done.  Read Getting Things Done.
  24. Stop following the path of least resistance. – Life is not easy, especially when you plan on achieving something worthwhile.  Don’t take the easy way out.  Do something extraordinary.
  25. Stop acting like everything is fine if it isn’t. – It’s okay to fall apart for a little while.  You don’t always have to pretend to be strong, and there is no need to constantly prove that everything is going well.  You shouldn’t be concerned with what other people are thinking either – cry if you need to – it’s healthy to shed your tears.  The sooner you do, the sooner you will be able to smile again.
  26. Stop blaming others for your troubles. – The extent to which you can achieve your dreams depends on the extent to which you take responsibility for your life.  When you blame others for what you’re going through, you deny responsibility – you give others power over that part of your life.
  27. Stop trying to be everything to everyone. – Doing so is impossible, and trying will only burn you out.  But making one person smile CAN change the world.  Maybe not the whole world, but their world.  So narrow your focus.
  28. Stop worrying so much. – Worry will not strip tomorrow of its burdens, it will strip today of its joy.  One way to check if something is worth mulling over is to ask yourself this question: “Will this matter in one year’s time?  Three years?  Five years?”  If not, then it’s not worth worrying about.
  29. Stop focusing on what you don’t want to happen. – Focus on what you do want to happen.  Positive thinking is at the forefront of every great success story.  If you awake every morning with the thought that something wonderful will happen in your life today, and you pay close attention, you’ll often find that you’re right.
  30. Stop being ungrateful. – No matter how good or bad you have it, wake up each day thankful for your life.  Someone somewhere else is desperately fighting for theirs.  Instead of thinking about what you’re missing, try thinking about what you have that everyone else is missing.

Sunday, December 11, 2011

Words to live by...

I just read this quote--great advice. It is easy to get caught up in the rat race. And even so, as I run (literally and figuratively) here and there, holidays, events, friends, it's easy to lose myself in it all. If I can't prevent the busyness, I can do my best to have good manners.

"Treat everyone with the same level of respect you would give to your grandfather and the same level of patience you would have with your baby brother." 

Sunday, December 4, 2011

North Face Challenge Trail Marathon

Yesterday, I ran the North Face Challenge Trail Marathon. I ran last year, in a downpour, "skated" through the muddy and muck, and still had a blast. So, after I forgot the pain of last year, I signed myself up again this year. It was an amazing day, perfect for running--sunny and clear mid-50 to 60-degrees. The hills were tough, but I took my time, walked up the hills and was able to finish "upright" and under 5 hours. Trail running seems much more laid back than road running. Walking up hills is considered "ok" or actually, encouraged. The aid stations have treats--salty--potato chips, pretzels, potatoes, soup broth, and sweet--m&m's, energy chews, soda, pb&j sandwiches--all to keep us going. I probably drank a whole can of Mountain Dew throughout the race and several handfuls of potato chips; both of which I generally don't eat or rarely (I think the last Mt Dew I had was at a sleepover in 8th grade!), but both tasted so, so wonderful during the run. Since the sun was out, after the race, many people lounged around on the grass, refueling on provided pasta, soup and salad, cheering the finishers of the 3 races--marathon, 50km, and 50-miler.

Saturday, December 3, 2011

Xmas Tree Shopping

Since "pop-up" stores are all the rage these days, I guess then, so would be pop up Christmas tree lots. Seems that every neighborhood has one. RQ is hosting a holiday party, so we walked up the block to the pop up lot, set to find the perfect tree for her apartment. So many to choose from!

Thursday, November 24, 2011

Happy Thanksgiving

This morning I was one of hundreds of volunteers to deliver 5000 Salvation Army meals to San Franciscans. I did it because I can; because I have great family and friends who love me (and vise versa!); I have enough, more than enough, in fact. I am so fortunate. And so thankful. Delivering meals was something small I could do for people who don't have as much as me. Today, at least, I know they had a good meal. I was able to get a photo with Santa too, right before I picked up the meals.

Sunday, November 20, 2011

Lovely Guests

"Taste testing" local beer at 21st Amendment
Last weekend my brother and his girlfriend came to visit. It was great to see them! And so much fun to explore. This is my brother's 4th trip (!) out here, since I've moved, but it was his girlfriend's 1st. They did a little sight-seeing on their own--Alcatraz, Chinatown, Fisherman's Wharf, Golden Gate Bridge. We spent Saturday wine tasting in gorgeous Sonoma County; it was an absolutely perfect fall day, grapes were ripe and still on some of the vines. Sunday, we explored Baker Beach, and I showed them the beautiful (and outrageously expensive) homes of Sea Cliff. And of course, we ate at one of the local Mission taquerias; unfortunately the traveling Mariachi band never made it by. I had such a great time with them! They're so much fun. I always feel so lucky when people want to take their vacations here. I know it's a "destination" and there is a lot to see (besides me!), but there are so many fun, interesting other places to visit.

Baker Beach

Golden Gate Bridge

Baker Beach

Friday, November 11, 2011

NYC Marathon

Wow, what an awesome race. 47,000 runners lined up last Sunday to take part in the event. The race is a "tour" of all 5 boroughs of the city. It starts in Staten Island,  heads to Brooklyn, then Queens, Harlem, and finally Manhattan. There are bridges throughout: the Verrenzo Narrows Bridge (the race begins on it), the Pulaski Bridge, Queensboro Bridge, Wills Ave Bridge, and Madison Avenue Bridge. Whew! The bridges were deceptionally difficult--they're a long up and then a long down. Gradual, it's hard to even feel or see it. My body definitely felt this at the end!

The weather was perfect for running--sunny and 50-degrees. The crowds during the race were like none I've ever experienced--so much energy, excitement. There were clever signs, "Toenails are overrated," marriage proposals, "go Mom" or "Dad" signs. There were 103 bands on the course, keeping the runners and crowds energized.

The race began on the Verrenzo Narrows Bridge on Staten Island. There were 3 waves of us--I was the last wave. The bridge is a double-decker, so each wave was split into corrals, and 1/2 of the wave began on the top and 1/2 on the bottom. I can't imagine the logistics of a marathon with 47,000 participants--wow. It was so well planned and organized, probably the best event I've been a part.

Until about mile 18, I was able to enjoy the race, read the signs, smile. After 18, my pace slowed a bit, my legs and back hurt. I stopped looking at the crowds as much and made it a goal to run water station to water station, which were every mile. It wasn't really fun anymore. But I told myself, this isn't easy, and I'd done plenty of difficult things in my life (well, it's all relative, I guess), I could do this.

The finish area was a little conjested and my body was in a lot of pain. I just wanted to sit, but we had to keep moving through the line. After picking up my medal, food and water, clothing, I was able to exit Central Park and find somewhere to sit and stretch. After about an hour, I felt better and was able to smile again.

Afterward, I headed back to Brooklyn--on the train with about 1000 other runners! I felt badly for the "normal" people, who just happened to get stuck on the wrong train with all of us! I am sure we smelled great. JD, CS, and I had a great dinner in Prospect Heights (I think) at a great little Mediterranean restaurant.

The next morning, I flew back to SF. The race was an amazing experience. I'll never forget it. I would love to do it again.

Ready or Not--picking up my race packet!

Staten Island Ferry

Staten Island Ferry

Statue of Liberty from the Ferry
Verrenzo Narrows Bridge--Start of the race


Thursday, November 10, 2011

Red Hook, Brooklyn, New York

Last week, I headed to NYC for the Marathon. I stayed in Brooklyn with my good friends JD and CS. JD was my first roommate in San Francisco, and I think of her as almost a sister. She kind of took me in and showed me the ropes when I first came to CA. I remember the cold and rain when I first arrived; and she and I spent many nights drinking hot tea, knitting, listening to NPR, and chatting...I know, we're such wild gals!

Anyway, I flew in on Friday morning, so had a few days to hang out. I wanted to keep off my feet, but I was able to do a bit of sight-seeing. Brooklyn always amazes me--it's so unique, has great architecture, quaint cafes, warehouse-condos, and markets. We went to the Red Hook Farm (right in their neighborhood) to pick up their CSA box. We went to the famous Baked for yummy breakfast.

Here are a few photos of the neighborhood.


Red Hook Farm

Red Hook Farm

Thursday, November 3, 2011

50 Things Everyone Should Know How To Do

Seems I have a few things to learn...

Taken from Marc and Angel Hack Life

"Practical Tips for Productive Living"


 1.  Build a Fire – Fire produces heat and light, two basic necessities for living.  At some point in your life this knowledge may be vital.

2.  Operate a Computer – Fundamental computer knowledge is essential these days.  Please, help those in need.

3.  Use Google Effectively – Google knows everything.  If you’re having trouble finding something with Google, it’s you that needs help.

4.  Perform CPR and the Heimlich Maneuver – Someday it may be your wife, husband, son or daughter that needs help.

5.  Drive a Manual Transmission Vehicle – There will come a time when you’ll be stuck without this knowledge.

6.  Do Basic Cooking – If you can’t cook your own steak and eggs, you probably aren’t going to make it.

7.  Tell a Story that Captivates People’s Attention – If you can’t captivate their attention, you should probably just save your breath.

8.  Win or Avoid a Fistfight – Either way, you win.

9.  Deliver Bad News – Somebody has got to do it.  Unfortunately, someday that person will be you.

10.  Change a Tire – Because tires have air in them, and things with air in them eventually pop.

11.  Handle a Job Interview – I promise, sweating yourself into a nervous panic won’t land you the job.

12.  Manage Time – Not doing so is called wasting time, which is okay sometimes, but not all the time.

13.  Speed Read – Sometimes you just need the basic gist, and you needed it 5 minutes ago. 

14.  Remember Names – Do you like when someone tries to get your attention by screaming “hey you”?

15.  Relocate Living Spaces – Relocating is always a little tougher than you originally imagined.

16.  Travel Light – Bring only the necessities.  It’s the cheaper, easier, smarter thing to do.

17.  Handle the Police – Because jail isn’t fun… and neither is Bubba.

18.  Give Driving Directions – Nobody likes driving around in circles.  Get this one right the first time.

19.  Perform Basic First Aid – You don’t have to be a doctor, or genius, to properly dress a wound.

20.  Swim – 71% of the Earth’s surface is covered by water.  Learning to swim might be a good idea. 

21.  Parallel Park – Parallel parking is a requirement on most standard driver’s license driving tests, yet so many people have no clue how to do it.  How could this be?

22.  Recognize Personal Alcohol Limits – Otherwise you may wind up like this charming fellow.

23.  Select Good Produce – Rotten fruits and vegetables can be an evil tease and an awful surprise.

24.  Handle a Hammer, Axe or Handsaw – Carpenters are not the only ones who need tools.  Everyone should have a basic understanding of basic hand tools.

25.  Make a Simple Budget – Being in debt is not fun.  A simple budget is the key.

26.  Speak at Least Two Common Languages – Only about 25% of the world’s population speaks English.  It would be nice if you could communicate with at least some of the remaining 75%.

27.  Do Push-Ups and Sit-Ups Properly – Improper push-ups and sit-ups do nothing but hurt your body and waste your time.

28.  Give a Compliment – It’s one of the greatest gifts you can give someone, and it’s free.

29.  Negotiate – The better deal is only a question or two away.

30.  Listen Carefully to Others – The more you listen and the less you talk, the more you will learn and the less you will miss.

31.  Recite Basic Geography – If you don’t know where anything is outside of your own little bubble, most people will assume (and they are probably correct) that you don’t know too much at all.

32.  Paint a Room – The true cost of painting is 90% labor.  For simple painting jobs it makes no sense to pay someone 9 times what it would cost you to do it yourself.

33.  Make a Short, Informative Public Speech – At the next company meeting if your boss asks you to explain what you’ve been working on over the last month, a short, clear, informative response is surely your best bet.  “Duhhh…” will not cut it.

34.  Smile for the Camera – People that absolutely refuse to smile for the camera suck!

35.  Flirt Without Looking Ridiculous – There is a fine line between successful flirting and utter disaster.  If you try too hard, you lose.  If you don’t try hard enough, you lose.

36. Take Useful Notes – Because useless notes are useless, and not taking notes is a recipe for failure.

37.  Be a Respectful House Guest – Otherwise you will be staying in a lot of hotels over the years.

38.  Make a Good First Impression – Aristotle once said, “well begun is half done.”

39.  Navigate with a Map and Compass – What happens when the GPS craps out and you’re in the middle of nowhere?

40.  Sew a Button onto Clothing – It sure is cheaper than buying a new shirt.

41.  Hook Up a Basic Home Theater System – This isn’t rocket science.  Paying someone to do this shows sheer laziness.

42.  Type – Learning to type could save you days worth of time over the course of your lifetime.

43.  Protect Personal Identity Information – Personal identity theft is not fun unless you are the thief.  Don’t be careless.

44.  Implement Basic Computer Security Best Practices – You don’t have to be a computer science major to understand the fundamentals of creating complex passwords and using firewalls.  Doing so will surely save you a lot of grief someday.

45.  Detect a Lie – People will lie to you.  It’s a sad fact of life.

46.  End a Date Politely Without Making Promises – There is no excuse for making promises you do not intend to keep.  There is also no reason why you should have to make a decision on the spot about someone you hardly know.

47.  Remove a Stain – Once again, it’s far cheaper than buying a new one.

48.  Keep a Clean House – A clean house is the foundation for a clean, organized lifestyle.

49.  Hold a Baby – Trust me, injuring a baby is not what you want to do.

50.  Jump Start a Car – It sure beats walking or paying for a tow truck.

Sunday, October 30, 2011

Clarion St. Murals

A little less than a block away from me, Clarion Street, a small alley-like street, is a hidden gem of murals. The Mission, my neighborhood, is known for the street art, murals, sidewalk messages/sketches. Every single inch of build space along Clarion Street is covered.

Sunday, October 23, 2011

Lovely Sunday by the Bay

NYC Marathon - 14 days!

When my brother and I entered the lottery for the NYC Marathon this year (or last ? -- it was so long ago), I didn't think I actually get in. Greg and I have been trying off and on for the past few years, with no luck. This year, as things would go, I had my Ironman in July, and then I get into the NYC Marathon! But Greg didn't. I felt I was mentally (and physically!) tired from the Ironman training, but I really wanted to run the race. My brother said he didn't mind if I go without him, so I decided to do it. I've heard the Marathon is a fantastic race. There are crowds (2-3 people deep) the entire course -- if you're a runner, you know this rarely happens in longer races, especially marathons. There are 40,000 people who run the race, and friends who've run have told me it's the best organized run they've taken part. Despite all the excitement about the actual race, I don't feel 100% prepared. I know I have a base from my Ironman training, and I knew going into this that I wouldn't be able to train as hard as I'd like (because I am tired). I'll get through the race, a little slower than I'd probably like, and it'll just hurt a lot! But, fall in NYC will be great, and I will stay with my good friends JD and CS in Red Hook / Brooklyn. I am looking forward to catching up with those two, and exploring the city.

Thursday, October 20, 2011

"Wanna D8"

I saw this license plate this morning while sitting at a stop light. The holder around the plate says (which is a little difficult to read), "Single? Interested" along the top, and "Inquire Within" along the bottom. "Wanna D8" is very clever. Though, I don't think I'd be brave enough to put it on my car...not sure what a plate like that would attract! I didn't get a chance to see the driver of the vehicle--to see if it was a man or woman. And, if it was a man, and cute...I might have "inquired within!"

Sunday, October 16, 2011

Healdsburg 1/2 Marathon

This morning, I ran the Healdsburg 1/2 Marathon with RQ and her running club. They're a fun, outgoing, talented bunch. And they let me tag along! The race went through Sonoma County, along the beautiful vineyards, past the wineries. Afterward, several wineries set up at the post-race party for wine tasting--we were given complimentary wine glasses, with the race/date inscribed and our medals also double as wine-stops. Though, I have to admit, I was not in the mood to sip or taste wine afterward. I was in the mood to guzzle water and beer (of course, I didn't guzzle the beer!). Luckily both were available to quench my thirst. The weather was a little warmer than I'd prefer, but still too bad. The race went quickly, but hurt a lot. Congrats to RQ, who won her age group and a bottle of wine!

Stroll through Chintatown

Yesterday, I was a few minutes early to the wedding I was helping set-up flowers, so I took a stroll through Chinatown.

Chinatown Gate, Grant Ave

Monday, October 10, 2011

Kiwi Berries

Yup, taste like kiwi!

Sunday, October 9, 2011

Pay for Bathroom?!

1 quarter or token for the bathroom at Whole Foods...Haight Street, San Francisco...

Tuesday, September 20, 2011

Sunday, September 11, 2011

Racing the boys

RC and I got out for a ride this morning. Now that I am not training for a triathlon, I can go for long rides, stop for coffee on the way back, and not not have the pressure of hitting a certain number of miles or time. It makes the rides more enjoyable. Not that they weren't before. But, if I'm tired, I can go home or I can stop and have a coffee, and I won't feel guilty.
clip from Bike Snob blog

Even though I am not training, I still am competetive. Every so often, someone will pass me and it'll light a little fire in me, so I try to keep up. Sometimes, they're past in 2 pedal strokes. Today, it might have been the double shot espresso at Coffee Roastery in San Anselmo, I could keep up. After RC and I parted ways at the Bridge, I had 7 miles home. This is where the "race" began. One man passed me, and I let him go, but noticed on the uphill, I caught up. So, I passed. He must not have like that because he passed back. Then I got right on his wheel--meaning, I got right behind him and let him block the wind. I noticed there was another man behind us, about 10 feet back. Through Presidio, down Arguello, at the stop signs and lights, we hop scotched in the lead. Another group of guys came up, less serious bikers. I could tell this because they had their street clothes on. But they apparently wanted to "race" too. I beat all of them, except the initial man, who might have been playing with me, "letting' me stick right behind him, but, I'll take it. It was a fun way to end the ride...And, I'll admit, gave me a little satisfaction. Though, no one else but me knew we were "racing!"

Tuesday, August 30, 2011

My Favorites List

1. Burt's Bees Carrot Nutritive Night Creme--smells good and I just know it's getting rid of my eye wrinkles!
2. Bike Snob--I read this a while ago. It's a fun, quick read. Sure to be appreciated by those who love to cycle and snarky humor
3. Curbed SF--All things happening on the streets of SF. Plus, the mega mansions for sale with photos...I can dream, right!?
4. Trampled by Turtles--these MN boys tug my heart a little, make me want to dance, plus I kind of have a crush on the lead singer.
5. Boden Scarf--Really, Boden anything...

Friday, August 26, 2011

Santa Barbara Lovin'

A few weeks back, RC, MD and I packed up the car with bikes for a weekend in Santa Barbara, to visit MC, who finally, after traveling the world, settled long enough for us to catch up with her. It was Fiesta in Santa Barbara, and downtown was crazy--a parade, confetti stuffed cascarones (I'm still finding confetti!), tango, and tacos! The four of us are the founding members of Team Tacos and Beer bike team, so of course we headed out for a ride Saturday morning. MC always "forgets" how hilly the ride she suggests (her birthday ride up Mt Tam), and she didn't disappoint us. By the end, the sun was peaking out as we rode along the coast and up, up, up, up to the house. We relaxed by the pool for a bit, got our legs back, and then headed downtown to Fiesta!

Viva la Fiesta!

Heading out!